Archive for July, 2011
Discover The Secret Cure For Negative Thinking
Just a week ago I thought of this simply brilliant or simple but brilliant idea and I almost forgot to write it down somewhere. So there I was for 7 days trying exceedingly hard to squeeze new article ideas out of my brain. So I used some Effective Questioning techniques to help me a bit.
One thing you should learn about any mental enhancement technique is that the speed with which you obtain results from it varies from time to time and from situation to situation. However the more you use it the better you get at it.
Then this noon while I was attending a lecture on Productivity and Quality and pretending to be taking notes I hit upon this idea.
One of the most prevalent monsters out there in the world of self help or whathaveyous is:
Negative thinking.
That’s right ladies and gentlemen. You’ve been told or rather we’ve been told that we should avoid negative thinking like the plague. Between the devil and the deep blue sea we’d rather watch reruns of ‘Teletubbies’ at least those creatures seem happy than entertain one single negative thought.
Ready for the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
Avoiding negative thinking is not the way! Pollyannaic positive thinking simply won’t do!
Before you throw your tomatoes at Mr Peale stop!
What are we to revert to our old ways now? No and yes.
You see I’ve learnt something these past few days. The more we try to ignore negative thinking the more negative thoughts will come to our mind. This is especially true if we’ve been incessant notorious negative thinkers all our lives.
Old habits die hard. Old habits that are intangible that are deeply rooted in the mind die even harder.
The only way I know of to fight dieharderthanusual old habits is to employ the Zenlike tactic of avoiding fighting. I read of this somewhere in some book. I think it was from a ChinNing Chu.
Avoid fighting? Sounds crazy doesn’t it? It’s some variation of reverse psychology at work.
But I’ve added more elements to it to make it even better. My cure isn’t really a cure it’s more like a prescription. It’s a set of things you have to do to NOT stop your negative thinking but rather turn your negative thinking into more constructive thinking.
First embrace your negative thoughts as a natural part of your being.
Let’s face it. All your unique beautiful varied emotions feelings and experiences are there for a purpose. To live. Some people advocate doing away with anger. I say they’re stupid. Anger is useful when appropriately needed. It’s there it’s got to have a purpose for existing. Some people advocate doing away with your material cravings. I say they’re crazy.
The key is to embrace it to accept it to acknowledge it then stop. Don’t give any more power to it by surrendering your concentration on it unnecessarily.
Second ask yourself some constructive effective questions to help you find something anything to do. Something practical to deal with the situation.
Here’s where effective questions come into play. Something along the lines of
“What can I do about this thing? How can I remedy the situation?”
“What options do I have? What is the best option I have?”
“What is the best way to use what available resources of time energy thoughts and materials that I have to construct an ideal or at least more tolerable circumstance?”
Third think one good thought for another person not for you let it go then believe that your good thought will be rewarded and returned to you tenfold.
Perhaps you have a problem with positive thinking because you simply can’t do away with the belief that you don’t deserve the best in life. You are in the socalled state of selfpunishment.
So what can you do? Direct your positive thoughts towards someone else other than you.
You can do this to someone close a loved one but it’s even better and it will be more effective if you direct your positive thought to complete strangers or people who do not have that much stake upon your emotional/social life.
Or try on someone you really dislike not to the point of hate.
You shall be surprised.
For instance I pass by an elderly stranger while walking to school. I simply will in my mind that she will have a fruitful day today a satisfying day a happy day when her friends and family if she has any will treat her well and everything will be fine.
Then I let it go and expect that good thought to be reciprocated to me tenfold.
I always believe that we shall be rewarded for our good even if it is worth the weight of an atom. And usually the reward is multiples greater than the worth of our good. Even if it is but a thought and not something tangible.
You can also try on someone who doesn’t seem to like you no matter how you treat him or her. Someone who treats you in a cold manner or rudely.
Forgive that person if it is appropriate wish him / her good thoughts and let go.
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Disabled Peoples Safety In Multi Storey Buildings
Because lifts will often be unusable or fail the DDA states that such building should have areas of safe refuge for those unable to manage stairs in the event of an evacuation. This surely is of course assuming the emergency is a fire and those in the safe refuge area will assumable be protected and rescued relatively quickly by the fire department if the management of the building fails too.
The problem is we tend to think of the cause of emergency evacuation as a fire and the chances are you do too. However evacuation procedures for people with disabilities needs to move with the times its a sad fact that we now live in a violent and unpredictable society and the cause for the evacuation may well be an explosion or bomb scare!
While there is no simple solution to the problem there are considerations in building design that could help fire protected evacuation lifts evacuation chairs on all levels and a greater consideration of providing more facilities on the ground and lower levels. Yes these too have there problems like I said there is no simple solution but a solution will not be found until the problem is recognised and addressed.
I cant help but feel that the fault often lies with designers. They love to create big fancy buildings that stand out from the crowd with unusual features simply so the building gets noticed and the designer can then stand back and say I designed that they appear more concerned and concentrated with getting noticed than the actual practicalities of minor things such as evacuation. Throwing in a few extra staircases does not help a wheelchair user on the tenth floor!
The reason for these articles are to enable people to read them and a voice to be heard. Maybe just maybe somebody with the power to make changes will recognise there is a problem and seek a solution. On the other hand you the reader may well be disabled or know somebody with a disability and now be concerned. My advice to you is when you approach a building dont think how or can I get in it think how do I get out!
About the writer: Robin is a disability access auditor http://www.accessauditing.com and a UK disability directory owner http://www.ableize.com
Developing Memory – Some Tips – Part 2
In some situations of memory and learning repetition and visualization are very helpful. The more times we repeat an action or verbally repeat things we will better be able to remember them. This is why commercials and advertising are so repetitive. You can repeat almost any skill and verbally repeat any data. Visualizing is used increasingly in professions to improve peak performance. You can replay in your head a time when you made a perfect golf stroke played a piece on the piano without mistake or confidently spoke in front of an audience. Visualizing can help you remember peak performance.
Association is another technique of memory. We recall information more easily if we can connect it with another thing we remember. An example of this is we may remember a new person’s name if they share the same name with someone we already know. We can deliberately select association so we can remember better. If you want to remember where you parked your car you might associate it with the lamp post it is near. But associations do not always have to make sense. Once in a class the students were asked on the first day to introduce themselves and also to name a vegetable that began with the same letter as their first name. Interestingly it was easier to remember each other’s names because you would first think of the vegetable and then have the first letter of their name which would help you to recall their name. Odd associations and strange events are easier to remember because they are different.
Grouping is a technique you can use to remember sets of things. For example if you wish to memorize the names of all the states in the U.S.A. you might try to remember that there are four states that begin with the letter A three that begin with the letter C etc. to help you remember in more manageable amounts. This can also be done to remember such varied things as anatomical terms learning a song or what you need to do today ex: 4 phone calls 6 tasks.
These techniques will help you to improve your memory under many circumstances. Pause when you receive information you wish to retain. Learn to use review and repetition to your advantage. Write things down. Simplify routines and eliminate clutter. Group. Use association to link information to things you will remember.
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